Praying for My Future Spouse…

Having given this some thought,  I have made this decision.

I am going to pray for my future wife every day.

Has anyone ever considered the thought of doing this?  I came across an article yesterday that served as a great inspiration for me.  A woman started praying for her future husband after finding no relationships for years.  She did this every day and she found a man at the church that she went to.  With the man deciding to meet her, she found out that he too had been looking and has been praying for a wife.  To make a long story short, they both ended up getting married.

To further reinforce this,  the bible has a couple of things to say about this.  The most profound verse that comes to mind is Genesis 2:18:  “It is not good for man to be alone.  I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

Now does this mean that God will provide each of us with our own spouse when we do this?  Not necessarily.  If you are going to do this, there are some important things that you need to consider.   What is God’s will?  Am I pursuing it?  Spend a lot of time in prayer to determine this.  God will never lead you in the wrong direction.  Where is he leading you and is he leading you in that direction?  Remember:  God knows what is best for us and he’s not going to leave us unfulfilled.  He wants us to be happy, but he also wants us to grow.  Sometimes we are not happy during these “growing pains”.

So consider God’s will and direction.   Do you feel led to marrying someone?  If this is what you strongly feel, begin praying for that future spouse.  There are certain desires that God gives us and if this is one of them, don’t hesitate in praying for him or her.  They will appreciate your prayers and will be encouraged to pray for you!

Remember.  in your pursuit for doing this, don’t get discouraged.  God has a wonderful plan for every one of us, and he wants that plan in your life to be fulfilled.  Just know that it’s going to be on his schedule and his timing.

With that, I am going to pray for my future wife.  I don’t know what’s she’s going through and I never met her, but God knows everything that she’s going through right now.  And I know that she will very much appreciate the prayers that I am sending her way.  She may be praying for me, and I want to be encouraged by her as well.  With her encouragement and most importantly, God’s encouragement.  He has a plan for me and he certainly has one for you.  Proverbs 18:22 says “he who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord”.

One last thing, if you are going to do this, try to remember why you are doing this.  Are you doing this for yourself or for God?  Ask God to guide you if you are feeling led to do this.  If this is going to be done at all, it is going to be done God’s way.  Do you feel the urgency?  Are you persuing your own spiritual wellness as well as their own?  We all need community in our lives, and God will provide it to us one way or another.

With that, seek God’s will before doing this, and he’ll point you in the right direction.  And if he is leading you to do this, do it his way.  God knows what is best for you and he’ll keep you aligned with his will for your life.  He knows where they live and he knows how to make the perfect arrangements for you to meet them.  It will be part of his timing, so do trust in it.

If this is what you strongly feel, I encourage you to pray for your future spouse.  I will surely be praying for mine.

My prayer for you is that God will guide you to the desires that he wants you to experience in your life.  If he is leading you to marriage, then I pray that you will meet your future spouse one day.

If you strongly feel led to pray for your future spouse and you’re looking for a way to started, then I encourage you to check out these books on the subject.

31 Prayers for My Future Wife: Preparing My Heart For Marriage By Praying For Her

31 Prayers for My Future Husband: Preparing My Heart For Marriage By Praying For Him


If you’re looking for additional resources, I encourage you to check out these three books.  The Dating Manifesto, True Love Dates, and Choosing Marriage.  They are all very wonderful resources if you need more information.

Also check out  It is full of information, blogs, and podcasts on relationships.  Debra Fileta is a wonderful person with a great knowledge of this subject matter.  If you go there, tell Debra that Kyle said hi!